24 May 2012

Quick update

I haven't really been around this week. My baby shower was great, my friend's visit was wonderful, however, I had a really horrible doctor visit on Tuesday. I came this close to being admitted to the hospital because, after being left sit in the waiting room for too long, then put in a room for 45 minutes (the same room I fell asleep in a month or so ago, and was left in there for an hour), and then hearing the doctor have a 10 minute conversation with a pharmaceutical sales rep, in which they continued the conversation they've been having for the last 4 weeks about whether or not he wants pre-stamped prescription pads for whatever product the rep is touting (I think it's birth-control pills, but I'm not sure, and at this point, I don't care), when he got in the room, I was MAD.  I know we have a language barrier, but he said some things to me that I don't particularly care for, and they were scary,  and he told me not to cry because I was upsetting myself. UMMM . . . K. Our doctor-patient relationship has been deteriorating rapidly over the last month or so, and I can't put my finger on why, but I think it has something to do with the fact that he seems to think my pregnancy should be the central focus of the entire family, to the point where it's not unreasonable that my husband takes multiple days off a week to take me to doctor visits, and the fact that I understand that he can not keep the small business that keeps a roof over my pregnant head going missing this much work.  It ended up that I got sent home, with an edict that I can not drive anymore, I am supposed to rest as much as possible, and that I have to go to the hospital tomorrow, apparently to speak to a perinatologist, but since I've been supposed to see the perinatologist since January, and all I seem to see is bills from them, I'll keep you posted.

Left-brain was HOT when he heard what happened, but he set right to work getting our plan together. He took all the little clothes I got down and washed them for me.  He used a dryer sheet on them, which was not the best thing, but he was trying to help, and I wouldn't criticize him for the world.  We packed her little bag for her to come home. I was only recommended to put 3 outfits in, but we chose 5 of each, just in case she needs options. He's going out tonight to get the rest of the things we need, in case we run out of time; there is something so charming, seeing this big, quick man moving through the baby department, looking at the tiny little lacy socks, saying things like, "Why is it all pink?"   I feel horrible for making extra work for him, and I feel like I'm just causing one problem after another, but he said it's OK. He said even if her I did have to remind him that he has to read labels when cooking, because he made dinner with potato bread, and that is not good. He said, "But it was a good brand."  Well, babe, still had sugar, LOL.  He tries really hard. He is a good man, he will be a good father. 

I was so upset Tuesday night that Left-brain said I should stitch, and I told him I didn't want to. I didn't feel like it. I got to feeling a little better last night and picked up Icy, but  I didn't do too much. Still haven't worked myself up to it.


Melanie said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your stresses. Just know that you have done your best for little Kaydence, and that once she is here, in your arms, all this will seem like a distant memory. :)

Annie said...

That is so upsetting to hear of your being treated that way by the Dr. A good Dr.-Patient relationship can make these situations so much more bearable. I hope things improve.

And what a husband you have! He sounds incredible!

Sending good thoughts your way.

Stitchinowl said...

Sorry to hear about the problems you are having with your OBGYN. I didn't care for my dr. too much either with my first pregnancy. It was a practice with 4 drs. and there was too rotating toward the end. I felt I was just a "number" to them. The good news for you is once the baby is born, you don't have to see your gyn anymore except for the 6-week appt. Then you can get another doctor! Hope all goes well in the next weeks.

Cathy Pavlovich said...

I hope that your experience at the doctor's office improves from here on in. The important thing is that you take care of yourself. Your husband sounds like a keeper. Stay well.

Jennifer said...

Rachel, you should not be this miserable with a doctor. Please promise me that if you don't jump ship now, that you will find a new doctor once you have the baby. Please. And if you do want to find a new doctor, I don't think there's anything wrong with that. This practice sounds awful, just awful, and it sounds like they have absolutely no respect for you as a person, let alone as a pregnant woman with a complicated pregnancy. Hang tight - that little girl will be SO worth it

Julie M said...

Aw Rachel, come here and let me give you a big hug. (((HUG))) I wish you could just walk away from this Dr. and find one you can work with. But if that isn't possible then hang in there and take care of yourself and that precious baby, let left-brain do what he can do without you feeling guilty about it. That's what marriage is all about. At some point he will need you be the one carrying a heavier load. It all balances out. Keep us posted!

Jenny said...

What an idiot of a doctor! Can you switch or is it pretty much too late?

It sounds like you are doing really well, considering the lack of support you are getting from the professionals and it is wonderful to hear that your LB is doing all he can to take care of you.

I am thinking of you - how wonderful to pick out clothes! I am so excited for you both!

I do my thing and you do yours. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, and you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, then it is beautiful. If not, it can’t be helped--Frederick Perls