11 March 2008

Slightly annoyed over this article

I guess I am a little sensitive about things like this, but I find these photos to be so utterly degrading.

I am what would be considered a classic nerd, when you define nerd as a smart person. I got good grades in high school and college. History and English, with a focus on American Lit, were my focus, other than my theatre and business courses. And I got good grades, because there was no reason to get otherwise. And in college, my parents were paying for it, so I didn't want to waste their money. I was not a social butterfly, but I have really NEVER looked like these girls. When I was 18, Melrose Place was popular and I ran around in those mini-skirt suits, and I never looked like these girls. I spent quite a lot of time disproving the very idea of these pictures and it cuts that people still picture "nerds" as these girls.

But I guess what gets to me the most is that they actually gave these women ZITS in these photos. Why would they do that?

I think I am just having a really bad day because I see this after I hear Dr. Laura say on the Today show that women whose men cheat on them didn't take care of their men enough. OK, I realize that I should keep this about cross stitch, but that smarted. When I was 23, I was with a man who took full-on advantage of me. I stayed with him through a lot of things that other women wouldn't put up with. When he lost his job, I paid for him to go to college. I was 23. I was making $10 an hour and I paid for him to go to college, I charged it on my Mastercard. I loved his son like he was my own and if you want to get some dirty looks, be 23 walking around with an 8 year old--people look at you like you are dirt. And he cheated on me. We busted him with hickies on the side of his neck and I can remember whoever she was called when I was there. He tried to tell me that it was his professor, but I knew good and well, he had his "boyfriend" voice on. He left me a week later. Anyway, my point is, I took care of that man. I don't even think I treat SO as good as I treated him. I learned my lesson, and SO is a real man. But I didn't DO anything to deserve to be cheated on. I was so furious at Dr. Laura, I told her to go F herself. Or well, I told the TV. I normally don't yell at the TV, but it took a while to get OK with what happened (not at the least because I had to repay the loan on the CC and take his sorry ass to court, where he never showed), and I don't have time to hear that I was remotely responsible for him cheating because I was busy making sure his dreams came true. By the way, Dr. Laura, you haven't aged well since the last time you opened your mouth and something stupid fell out. I might have not made my old man faithful, but my new man is pretty dang sexy, and he thinks I am cute, and I wouldn't have had the chance to be with him if I had done "enough" for my old man.

Anyway, that's enough ranting for today. I apologize for straying off topic. Usually I leave that for Fridays. I guess we can blame this rant on the time changing.


Pumpkin said...

I find these shows to be very degrating anyway and those girls are really not improving their lives. Can you imagine seeing those episodes aired 10 years down the road?

There's a show on the new Cosmo channel called Dirty Cows. It's just like The Bachelor but it's over in the UK. They actually call the girls cows and instead of getting a rose, they are given a roset like you see at a fair. I couldn't believe it!

You do what you want to to make a relationship work. Listening to others is not always the best thing. It sounds like you're in a better place now :o)

Ken said...

Cheating is wrong. Let me say that right away.

Dr. Laura says that ***IF*** you choose a good man ***AND*** you treat him right, he will not stray. Nowhere does she excuse men for their decisions to commit adultery.

Treating a jerk well doesn't change the fact that he's a jerk.

I do my thing and you do yours. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, and you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, then it is beautiful. If not, it can’t be helped--Frederick Perls